April 5 through May 10

From 5 April through roughly 10 May, that was our work at home. LGB set out to build a house of cards with K and closely observe how she reacted to the collapsing structure as we tried again and again to steady it and add on “floors”. In an effort to keep things lighthearted, I remarked on K's grunts of frustration and asked how she felt along the way. I encouraged her to keep going and she never really got too upset. Over the same period of time when there were situations slowly escalating I might ask, “what would you do in this moment at school?” or, “is this the kind of thing that gets you upset at school”? She would usually say, “no”, or “I don’t know”.

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